Do you feel like a bad person because you aren’t following the Asian blueprint? 

You’re likely here because you’re struggling with some uncomfortable experiences with the “war” over your bi-cultural identity. You’re born in America with Asian immigrant parents but you’re finding parts of the culture being imposed on you, to be constraining, toxic, and judgmental. You're feeling judged because people call you “whitewashed” when you’re an American doing American things. You feel like you can’t do anything right. It all makes you feel like a bad person. 

You’re may be feeling any or all of the following:

• Hopeless things will never change 

• Frustrated with parents overreacting to any decision you make for yourself

• Overwhelmed with the pressure of achievement 

• Stuck because there’s no movement in this dynamic 

• Chronic mental pain  

• Resentful towards the culture and/or family

• Yearning for what your non-Asian friends are doing

• Shame for being a “bad person” because you’re doing normal American activities 

• You want to be free to do what you want to do without having such a big reaction from the culture and losing your relationship with your parents.  You want your parents to understand you. You want to choose how “Asian” you are or not at all. 

I know these are uncomfortable things to talk about in the community. I want you to let off the steam that’s been building inside you waiting to explode like a pressure bomb. What I know are proven strategies to help you feel better without medication. It's time you have control over your life. 

Hi! My name is Cynthia. I’m an American-born South Asian mental health therapist who helps fellow American-born Asians who struggle with bicultural identity issues. Let's see if I can help you feel better soon rather than later.

Schedule a free 15 minute consultation with me at cynthiat@novalighttherapy.org